The reality of a D/s relationship:
A D/s relationship – is a relationship in which the Dominator controls the physical and psychological giving that he inflicts on his submissive, always taking into account all of his/her physical and emotional needs;
The Dominator – you will receive from your submissive total trust, as this will place in “your hands” your life, your heart and your soul, basically this will be able to do what he/she wants with your submissive, always following the outlined limits how obvious!
The submissive – is someone who has a personality who likes to be dominated, who is not afraid of pain and who, unlike many people, loves to be inflicted with pain because that’s the only way to get pleasure and sometimes sexual!
In a D/s relationship it is necessary to understand that no one is demoted or mistreated (literally) , the Dominator should take care, improve his/her submissiveness, make him/her a better person and a much more active personality. As such, both must see themselves as half of each other, as the reality is that one cannot exist and feel fulfilled without the other.
We must never confuse a D/s relationship as something that goes beyond all limits and lacks respect, as this is not what is practiced in this type of relationship at all; Respect is the order of the day and nothing happens without it being discussed and discussed in advance, the limits are more than spoken and drawn and there is no one who wants to exceed them! The physical and psychological well-being of both is extremely important!
WE MUST ALWAYS BASE OURSELVES ON SSC AND RACK
If you think the Dominator always has all the powers then the best thing is to think again, believe me the situation is not like that at all!
It must be understood that a Domination and submission relationship must always be SSC, that is, Healthy, Safe and Consensual, and it is not worth trying to run away, this type of relationship is always protected, don’t forget that!
SSC and Bondage Bases:
Sã- All activities carried out during a Bondage session must be done with the authorization of everyone involved;
Insurance – The health of everyone involved must never be compromised, and everyone must know what they are doing;
Consensual- All parties involved must be aware of the activities they will practice, it must be borne in mind that in the case of a submission, the psychological part must also be taken into account, and the submissive must always say what is his/her true limit and the dominant is obligated to respect it, the transgression could lead to serious consequences.
But as with all practices, the Bondage community doesn’t always think that the SSC covers all activities, so there is another type of agreement, which is called RACK , defined as Risk, Aware. /Informed), Consensual (Consensual), Kink (Pervert), which in this case just means, that everyone involved will be aware of all the risk they are committing themselves to by engaging in Bondage or BDSM relationships .
Both the SSC and the RACK are two golden rules that must always be followed by all its stakeholders, the rules established in the “contract” must never be broken or interrupted, if something happens it may be a reason to end the relationship of Domination and Submission immediately, if there are no even more serious complications.
HOW TO BECOME A DOMINATRIX
Becoming a dominatrix is not for everyone, but if you have this desire then the best thing is to read our article, as you will learn the best ways to do it.
In a relationship of Domination and submission, the communication channel must be open and that they can talk about everything without any problem.
Tips to become a true Dominatrix:
The dominatrix must know the sexual tastes of her submissive, in other words, it is necessary to know what makes the man wanting and horny and take action;
Choice of a safeword- This type of choice is very important, the safeword will ensure that there is no accident. The word should be something you would never normally use, so if the sub is feeling overboard and the dominator will have to stop right away.
Knowing preferences- After talking to the man and knowing what his true desires, fetishes and sexual fantasies are, the man will have to realize that he will not open his mouth again unless asked by his dominatrix; From the moment they begin to play their roles, man no longer has any kind of opinion;
When to start the games – The man will have to realize that now the woman is in control, making her a real dominatrix, as such he should treat her with the utmost respect, so whenever you talk to him , your answer should just be “Yes, ma’am; Yes, my lady; Sim dominatrix or Sim, Dominatrix” or any other name that wants to be addressed;
Punishment- Initially, it will be normal that the man, with all the excitement, forgets how to treat his dominator, if that happens, he will have to be punished , and as a good dominator that he is, he should apply a punishment he deems necessary ;
Sex Games- As a good dominatrix, you know that tying or trapping the man will be an excellent form of domination, so initially buy a pair of handcuffs that is comfortable and never lose your keys, as that will be very bad; The fact that man has his movements completely restricted will make him entirely at his disposal;
Be a true dominatrix – In order to start your “work” you must punish him, but as mentioned above, you must know how far you can go with the punishments and how to choose the level of pain, to be sure of the what you are doing, you should first do some experiments, such as, during sex you should pull her hair and see how long it can hold (keep a diary so you don’t forget), bites (you should bite harder and harder to realize how much the submissive can take), spanking (beating is something that makes anyone excited, but once again you will have to understand what makes you excited and what will completely tell you all the horny).
So you can start your new job as a dominatrix, remember that what matters is that you have fun!
THE MEANING OF THE CEREMONY OF ROSES
For those who are not familiar with BDSM and Bondage practices, you may find that the only objective of this type of sexual activity will be to hurt the sex slave and that the dominator does not care in the least for him and his feelings.
So the best thing is to demystify the myth that lies behind the deceit of laypeople who don’t care and who simply don’t want to learn more about this beautiful activity.
The Ceremony of the Roses is full of symbolism, and it’s like the dominator’s way of telling his sex slave that he will be yours until the end of his days, in other words, it’s a tradition as valid as the typical Marriage, but in mine opinion this is an even more beautiful tradition.
Symbolism of the Ceremony of the Roses
White Rose – The semi-closed white rose will be carried by the submissive as an act of submission, its color represents the transparency and purity that the submissive brings to the relationship;
Red Rose – The red color is known for its meaning of passion and desire, of course this is the representation of the Dominator, but beyond that, it also represents the need that the Dominator has and wants to protect and have his submissiveness.
Blood – The blood spilled on the petals is the symbol of the union between the couple, although the ceremony is only symbolic, the union of the couple through blood means that this will be eternal. And that now they are both from the same family and that nothing will be able to separate them.
Petals – The union of petals demonstrates the union between two beings; it means that from that moment on their lives will now be together and never separate; There are still several legends that after they die the couple is buried together with their petals and that roses will be born. The fact that the petals are buried with the Dominator and the submissive means that their relationship is much more than carnal; it also becomes spiritual!
Unwinding of the Ceremony of Roses
The submissive carries a half-closed white rose while the Dominator carries an almost open red rose. Both must be harvested shortly so that they are beautiful and fresh, your feet must have some thorns.
After exchanging their vows, the submissive must let the Dominator prick her middle finger with the thorn of the red rose and the blood must be poured over the petals of the white rose.
After that both will have to join the two fingers and thus they will be united forever through bloodshed, their life from this moment as before was known ceases to exist and they are now one!
The couple’s union is made through the Ceremony of the Roses, and forever they will find themselves united, in a relationship of Domination and Submission, of desire and passion . But their union is not only physical, it is also spiritual , most of the time after death, the couple asks to be buried together and with them their roses must remain!