With sadomasochism, the couple learns to pay more attention to each other and to talk. This is because this practice requires that both of you know very well what limits to cross or not, and understand what to do to reach orgasm.
An open and frank conversation between the partners is essential for both she and he to be able to find the point of balance and sexual satisfaction in a sadomasochistic practice, whether it is frequent or done just to break the routine.
Therefore, self-knowledge is also important. Knowing what brings pleasure is fundamental to understanding what does not cause desire or lust. Only in this way is it possible to guarantee complicity and understand how to have a sadomasochistic practice that brings sexual satisfaction to both.
Attention: non-consensual sex (and anything else)
is not sadomasochism!
You may have heard a story from a friend, or even in movies, that talking dirty or making up spicy stories at the time of the fight when the weather is high, it’s good! Yes, it’s great! But for you who are entering this world now, understand: anything that harms or
embarrasses is not cool.
Therefore, it is always recommended to agree on a password with your partner for when you have to really stop, because in the practice of sadomasochism, not always a no means no. Incidentally, they can’t spice up the mood even more. So, define a word, which can be anything from an airplane to zebra.
This is important because the sadomasochistic practice cannot, in any way, be rape or cause disgust to either partner.
See how these practices are not as strange as many people think? If you think your relationship is boring or you just want to do something different with your partner, why not try this practice a little? You can combine the boundaries and roles of each and then enjoy. Remember that anything goes inside four walls. Have a good time!
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Domination and submission are practices linked to the BDSM universe. Also known as D/S, it is the way to call an unequal relationship established between two people, where all power is given to the dominant and it is up to the submissive party to obey of their own free will, performing tasks and obeying orders that may or may not have sexual overtones. Domination can be physical or mental.
Within the relationship of domination, sadism and masochism can exist, not necessarily being the main ingredients of the relationship. Most of the time, there is a relationship of affection, based on the pleasure of giving oneself by the submissive and in commanding by the dominant, it is very common for this relationship to be a bit confusing at first, but it is important that the submissive meet the dominator always.
In the relationship of domination, men are called DOM, and women DOMMES. Submissives are called Sub. In addition to these nicknames, dominators often call themselves noble titles, such as Sir, Lord, Queen, or by Master, lord, owner, among others. Submissive individuals can also call themselves in various ways, from the most humble such as servant, slave, bitch, worm, to the most vulgar for those who like to be humiliated.
The limit of pleasure and pain
When we talk about BDSM, it seems very easy to understand the person who acquires the dominant role and how erotic it can be to have the power of a situation. Therefore, understanding the role of the submissive and how such situations can sexually arouse someone is more complicated. The line of pleasure and pain is very thin, physiologically speaking. What separates them, basically, is the interpretation we give to these organic sensations. Fear, produced by humiliation and attitudes of domination, triggers automatic adrenaline, which is responsible for sexual excitement.
Pain produces endorphins, which are also present in orgasm. However, the pain itself does not produce erotic pleasure, but if accompanied by dopamine, which is generated by sexual attraction, they become an explosive mixture that can cause sudden pleasure.
forms of domination
There are many ways to “dominate” someone and every BDSM relationship is different. There is a misconception that domination is linked to physical pain, but it doesn’t have to be that way. For example, it might include household chores, homework, worship, massage, kindness. Dominating is not just “punishments” and obligations. It is very important to reward a sub when he behaves well.
A dominance game can be part of foreplay or, in many cases, it may not even have conventional sex. Sometimes there is not even physical contact between dominant and submissive, as in the case of virtual domination.